Focusing your attention on others as a way to not look in the mirror, and find what is truly wrong, hurting or uncomfortable at this moment in our own lives.
It's really easy to think that when you find someone a lot of your issues will just subside or disappear, but the truth is until you start to work on you, you'll never be happy, coupled up or single.
I figured if I wasn't on there, I was missing out, missing an opportunity and missing finding my person.
I was holding myself back, I was playing up certain parts of myself, and playing down other characteristics, all so I could be more "desirable." I became who I thought I was supposed to be, not who I was.
I acted more way casual, and less emotional than I really am.
No thought other than, nope, not what I think I like.
Hair, eyes, skin color, height, weight all became your stats in a world where I had never used statistics to make my choice of who I might be interested in.
This is why after 6 first dates in 5 days, I not once found myself wanting a second date. I Am Pickier Online Than In Real Life Having someone be presented essentially as a two-dimensional option, rather than a real life opportunity makes them feel much more disposable.